Let it Happen

“First best is falling in love. Second best is being in love. Least best is falling out of love. But any of it is better than never having been in love.” ― Maya Angelou

We all are familiar with that "oh shit" feeling when we first realize that we are really falling for someone. I use the phrase "oh shit" because well it is a little bit scary isn't it?! Someone single handedly put their grip around your heart and started to pull it toward theirs. Their voice starts to send shock waves down your spine, their hand in yours begins to seem like home, and the feeling when you kiss is equivalent to a fire lighting inside of you. "Oh shit, another human being has this much affect on me," is how the internal conversation might go. With that, maybe your first reaction is fear. Which makes sense! Of course if you have ever been hurt before in a relationship or in life in general, you know what you are putting at stake. Sometimes, I think that if I ever feel this feeling again I will bolt for the hills. However, at the end of the day, I know I am going to embrace it. Who the hell am I to let "fear" have any impact in my life? Hell no. Let yourself embrace this feeling. What is the worst thing that can happen? You get hurt? Oh well! Getting hurt is a apart of life. That shouldn't take away the value and admiration falling for someone entails. Beginning to fall for someone is a feeling that your brain can try to pretend like isn't happening but your gut is usually screaming the truth. If I have learned anything in my nineteen years of life it is that our brains like to play tricks on us but your gut or your "heart" do not deceive you. If your heart is telling you to go for it then you should. A lot of people might disagree with me on this one but hear me out. It is definitely important to guard your heart and make sure you are giving it up to someone who is deserving of it. However, if you are sitting there holding yourself back because of this "fear" that you might feel you are genuinely doing yourself a disservice. Allow yourself to feel a little bit vulnerable because if you are keeping your guard up to protect yourself from hurt well quite frankly you are holding yourself back from growth. The person in front of you might hurt you one day or you might hurt them. Better yet, what if regardless of the hurt that MIGHT come later, you both fall in love and learn HUGE life lessons from each other? I can personally say every person I have "fallen" for has taught me something and I have always came out a little bit stronger. Like I said, getting hurt is apart of life and we can't sit here fearing it. This might sound crazy but think about the times in which you were hurt by any aspect of life. There is NO way on God's green earth that you didn't come out stronger or learn something new about yourself. With that, yes, there are things to lose but there is so much gain! Fear should have no place in your life. (working on this myself). Take the risk of letting yourself fall because you have no idea what is sitting right in front of you if you don't take that leap of faith. Allowing yourself to fall is like allowing your soul to experience the greatest nourishment possible. To find someone in which has inflicted such a strong spark within you is not something that happens everyday. It is like the beginning of a story when you first fall for someone. You have no idea what is going to be written on the pages but it is exciting that for once in our lives we do not have to know. We can just take the risk and see where life takes us. The good and the bad. Like I said, our brains like to play tricks on us but when it comes to love our heart is where you should look. If your gut is telling you to go for it then do it. There is not enough time in our life time to pass up love or run away from it. Life is just too short. You have to let yourself love! Love is one of the last truly innocent, intimate and beautiful things our messed up world has to offer. Take it and run with it.